A Bit of Advice

Today’s blog post is short with some sweet advice. Seriously – sweet advice…

You can't buy happiness


Lady Gaga? WTF?

While I am not, technically, a “Little Monster,” I have LOVED Lady Gaga since the beginning. I remember seeing a video clip of Lady Gaga performing at some club on the Perez Hilton blog what seems like years ago. I remember thinking, “Wow. That woman is talented. She is surely crazy, but crazy talented.” I was hooked…

I have watched Gaga explode into/onto the world, becoming not only a musician to be reckoned with but also a non-stop visual feast. She is a fashion icon. She is always a head-turner, sometimes as a fashion vision, sometimes as a fashion nightmare. She is a living, breathing work of art. And, like art, not everybody is gonna’ like everything.

So sorry, Little Monsters, I do not like the latest Gaga incarnation. I’m not sure how this beautiful, talented artist, a woman that started sorta’ like this –

Glamorous Gagaand periodically entered into almost otherworldly, non-human personas like this –

Rainbow Gagaand most recently became the face of one of, if not THE, most glamorous fashion houses on the planet – Versace –

Lady-gaga-versace-adcan somehow appear at SXSW (the South by Southwest music festival) and – after a song about rape, during which a “vomit artist” regurgitated lime green and inky black goo on Lady Gaga –  my former “goddess” looked like this –

Lady-Gaga-VomitCovered in stomach acid, vile liquid goo and sweat, Gaga mounted a giant bucking mechanical pig wearing a ball gag – the pig not Gaga – and simulated lesbian sex with Millie (the gal that had just puked on her). It was not pretty… Or inspiring… Or even “conceptual.”

It was gross, it was sophomoric and it came across as manic and desperate.

Sorry, Lady Gaga – I still love ya, babe, but that performance made you look like some sort of insane, drug-and-alcohol-addled college co-ed on a spring break gone bad. Way bad. I also thought your dancers spraying the audience with beer from shaken up “40’s” was super-classy as well. I had actually looked forward to seeing your “intimate performance” at SXSW. Instead, I saw a great artist performing in intimate apparel.

I am no prude, nor am I some old, squeamish fuddy-duddy but really, LG – get it together, please. If not for your own sake, for your fans. Please never make us want to turn in our Little Monster membership cards. We’d be sad…

5 Rules of a Relationship

I wish I had created this graphic; I didn’t. I found it tonight while trolling Tumblr (my latest sorta’socialmedia addiction) and it resonated with me greatly in its stark simplicity, its in-your-face presentation and its absolute truth –

rulesI must admit – were I to change ANYTHING about this graphic – it might be the order of “the rules,” but I’m not even sure I would change that. Read, heed and share. Thanks, PositiveTimez!

Thank God It’s Friday

I must admit, I look forward to some “weekends off” more than others.

I’m looking forward to this one…

I made myself laugh a few minutes ago when – I’m embarrassed to admit – I actually said, like, out loud, to a co-worker, “Thank God it’s Friday.”

Which made me think about the now-classic cult film of the same title from 1978,

thank-god-its-friday-donna-summerwhich made me start singing the disco classic from Love & Kisses, Thank God it’s Friday – hear it HERE.  It also reminded me of Donna Summer (goddess!) and how much, probably more than almost any other song, ever – “Last Dance” impacted my life…


To enjoy Last Dance – and watch the seminal scene from the movie that made it famous (at least with straight people, LOL!) – please click HERE. Whenever I hear this song, I smile from ear-to-ear and am a 20-year-old gay boy again.

TGIF! Have a GREAT weekend, everyone!

Say What

Today was an odd, mixed bag of news and moments…

I learned that the father of a very close friend had passed away. Design clients – a young couple – shared with me that they were expecting their first child. I learned that someone I idolize, a legend in the home furnishings industry, recently sold her her entire business empire – her name included! – for $95 million dollars. My little store did about $12 in sales. I had a visit from an old co-worker. I had a visit from a former design client. I had a salad for lunch AND a salad for dinner. All these unrelated happenings, all these nothing-in-common moments occurred on the same day. I guess maybe every day is a little like that (I hope maybe not the $12-in-sales-thing!) but it was an interesting roller coaster of a day today: sadness, joy, awe, disappointment, remembrance, surprise and routine. For whatever reason, this image just got stuck in my brain tonight…

Magic 8 BallI hope tomorrow is equally full and exciting – maybe with the hope that the news and events all be weighted to “the good side” – no more deaths, and maybe, just maybe, sales at my business will inch closer to that $95 million dollar mark. And I’ll eat some bread…

Herkimer Diamonds

According to a recent quiz I took on Facebook, I am a Herkimer Diamond. Sounds pretty cool – and glamorous – right? You know, “being” a gemstone. These are examples of Herkimer Diamonds –

Herkimer Diamonds 1Don’t get me wrong – I was flattered to “be” a diamond, Herkimer or not, but I had never even heard of them – Herkimer Diamonds. A quick “Google” give me this info from Wikipedia –

Herkimer diamond is a generic name for a double-terminated quartz crystal discovered within exposed outcrops of dolostone in and around Herkimer County, New York and the Mohawk River Valley.  …Wiccan and New Age belief systems often ascribe specific occult properties and a wide variety of mystical powers to them.

Herkimer clusterClick the image above to be taken to the Wikipedia entry. So, “occult properties” or “mystical powers,” eh? Since I AM a Herkimer Diamond, I was curious to see what those properties/powers were…

Turns out, according to the internet, that “Herkimer Diamonds are a master class crystal. They bring clarity on all levels. Herkimer Diamond crystals empower the self, providing the energy to create and manifest visions into being. Herkimer Diamonds are amazing amplifiers of energy. They seek to balance the imbalances on all levels.’

Hmmmm… So, I “possess” the power manifest visions into being? Sounds a lot like what interior designers do for a living – we bring clarity to interiors, empower our clients to seek balance and help turn “visions” into reality. Sounds about right. I AM a Herkimer Diamond.


Tuesday Daydreaming

So today was a MUCH better day than yesterday, overall, with ONE exception:

It was COLD (again) and it SNOWED (again). I know I promised to stop kvetching about the weather so instead, allow me to share my Tuesday Daydreaming with you…

Today I closed my eyes and tried to remember what the world looked like when lawns were all lush and green…

grassI wanted to remember what it felt like to go out for a walk without hats and gloves and coats and boots – just me, my Beloved MSW, my feet and my eyes. To “see” things besides snow and icicles…

eggs in a nestI thought about how great it would be to see people and animals actually enjoying and interacting with nature, being an active part of the experience, not always running to “get inside as fast as possible…”


I wanted to remember what it was like to spend an entire day at the shore (the LAKE shore, BTW) with my Beloved, to sit in the warm sun with him, a cold Diet Coke, a magazine and my floppy hat, doing nothing but being together and, well, just being…

beach chairsAnd I closed my eyes and thought back to hanging out with our friends, roasting marshmallows over a backyard fire pit, again doing nothing but being… Sigh…

roasting marshmallowsListen, I know we will (eventually) enjoy a brief three-day Spring, followed immediately by an agonizingly hot-n-humid Summer, a Summer I will no doubt “wish away” every day, tired of the endless oppressive heat and humidity, or maybe too much rain. It seems to me that the nature of man – or at least MY nature – is to always wish for something different that what is happening/what we have. So, I try and be patient, I try and be accepting and – more than anything – I try to remember that “Nothing is as sure as the changing of the seasons.”

Some days I need to work a lot harder to remember that… Please, Spring – c’mon already…