It’s Coming…

My beloved Martin is CRAZY for Halloween – I mean, I think the only reason Christmas might beat out Halloween in the “Favorite Holiday Category” is because of the presents, LOL! To be honest, I love Halloween, too. I’m not sure why Halloween holds such an appeal – I think maybe because it’s the ONLY holiday where “grown-ups” are allowed (expected?) to behave silly and act like kids. Plus, being scared is cool…

I do like the “imagery” of Halloween – it is a very visual holiday, in the middle of the most visual season, Autumn. So, with little rhyme or reason – and no actual criteria other than I like them – here are a number of Halloween/Fall images I liked. Enjoy!


autumn path

flock of crows

haunted house

dark alley

black cat



Spontaneous Friends

Martin and I like to think we are great “spontaneous friends,” meaning that we are up for most anything at a moment’s notice. This is a gift, an easygoing way of being that I think most of our circle of friends appreciate. Does that mean that we don’t have a certain Halloween party already on the calendar for October? Is there a “Holiday Happening” coming up in December that we cannot/will not miss? Of course – everybody plans for special days and events but I think too many of us try to plan too much. be spontaneousSure, maybe that philosophy sounds a little ‘fiddle-dee-dee” but today is a perfect example.

My Sweetie has been trying to get together with one of his dearest – if not best – friends all summer. That have text-ed and called and scheduled back and forth until the summer is all but over, never able to make a date. Last night, I encouraged my Beloved to text his friend, say that he was off today and ask her what time could they get together for coffee.

As it turns out, they have been together all day today (I haven’t heard a thing!) See? Spontaneous friends…

Same with tonight. My Angel and I were invited last night for an impromptu backyard dinner tonight with our two besties. No weeks-in-the-making moment – just a simple, “Hey, wanna’ come over Friday night and we’ll hang out?” kinda’ thing. It was a nice surprise and Martin and I are really looking forward to it. I think our friends are, too..

When it comes to friends and friendship, if you have to “work” to schedule times to get together, well, that makes me a little sad. It makes friendship seem like, well, work to me – schedules and plans and time slots. Our close friends are always welcome at our place – we may be in raggedy sweat pants with yuck-y hair (like I even HAVE a lot of hair) but people that you know and love, people that matter to you, well,they should always be able to stop, visit and laugh with you without an appointment. Surprise and spontaneity make life more joyful and fun.

Give it a try – pick a weekend, plan NOTHING, and challenge yourself to see how great it is. I think you will be pleasantly surprised. Don’t be this person –

Spontaneous tomorrow

Martin has helped me become a lot more spontaneous, and I suggest it as a goal to everyone. You will enjoy your daily life more and “big events” will become less important. In fact, you will probably come to realize that many daily events actually ARE big events – you were always just too busy scheduling other things to notice…

A Holiday Designed Especially for My Sweetie

My partner is from Europe and, as such, has become familiar and accustomed to our decidedly “American” holidays – days like The Fourth of July and Thanksgiving – big deal days here in America that are not celebrated in Europe. He likes the novelty of it all, the history and tradition associated with each day and – usually – the specific foods connected with each individual holiday celebration. Up until today, I think Halloween and Christmas had to tied with my Sweetie as his favorite holiday. That’s correct – up until today. See, today is National Cheesecake Day and NO ONE loves cheesecake like my Angel.

Cheesecake Factory CheesecakesIn the tradition of all holidays, I think my Beloved and I will start our own “tradition” to mark the day – and, it follows that today we will celebrate the day by “chowing down” on a big old slice of cheesecake. The beauties above are from The Cheesecake Factory, and I am pretty sure we will be making a stop there later today. My Sweetie LOVES their cheesecake – I do, too! He usually gets a White Chocolate Raspberry Truffle Cheesecake (right), while I typically get some over “choco-fied” choice like the Chocolate Tuxedo Cream Cheesecake (left).

I have found there are NO bad choices at The Cheesecake Factory.


No matter WHAT “slices get selected,” I know my Sweetie and I will enjoy not only the cheesecake but, more importantly, our time together. Is cheesecake – especially Cheesecake Factory cheesecake – very “diet-friendly?” Probably not, but sometimes making memories with the one you love is more important than a few calories…

Plus, I’ll burn some extra calories washing dishes later after we eat…

fork and crumbs


I’m Discombobulated Today

I know. I complain constantly. I joke with people that it’s my job (to bitch).

Today my main complaint is that I cannot manage to figure out what the hell day of the week it is… I’m all discombobulated.

perplexed guyTruth is, I am co-owner of a small business so I have a pretty sweet work schedule anyway. I work four days a week in the studio (and many more hours outside the store, so don’t judge), plus my business partner and I have arranged our schedules so we each enjoy a three-day weekend every other week.

Normally, that is great – this week, it is a nightmare…

This week, I SHOULD have worked this schedule: Monday and Tuesday, 10A till 5:30P, off Wednesday, Thursday 10A till 7P, Friday 10A till 5:30P and then off Saturday, Sunday and Monday. Great, right?

But – with the holiday factored in – this is what I REALLY worked this week: Monday and Tuesday, 10A till 5:30P, off Wednesday and Thursday (Fourth of July), Friday 10A till 5P (special holiday hours) then off again Saturday, Sunday and Monday.

I know this will make me sound like some ungrateful idiot but honestly? I am having trouble keeping track of what day it is, LOL!

July 2013I know – TOO much time off, is that anything to complain about? But, I am finding it a bit hard to keep track of what the hell day of the week it is – plus, I don’t think I am a workaholic or anything but I do actually like my job. Sigh…

I guess I will just have to “man up” and try to enjoy this extra time off. I know it will eventually “be” Monday again.

Being “adult” sucks sometimes…

So today my sweet Martin and I are driving to my younger sister’s house (about 2.5 hours away) to finally celebrate Christmas with my three nieces. Its a long story but we were unable to be together in December so today is our holiday “rain date.” While I am looking forward to going, I have mixed feelings about it. Not because I don’t love my sister and her family, but because…

It’s Sunday morning and I’m off today,

The wind is howling outside like our apartment was at the North Pole or something,

Our bed is warm and we have a big fluffy comforter that is nice to cuddle under,

I have the best cuddling partner in the world.


Being/behaving like an adult is often not quite what I had envisioned it to be when I was younger. Like, I just wanna’ stay in bed today… Now I fully understand why kids pull the covers over their heads when its time to get ready for school. Sigh. I guess I better go pick out a sweater to wear…