Monday Memes 25

Love. Funny how love “changes course” and gets redefined as relationships flourish – then sometimes flounder. I am lucky – I kissed a LOT of frogs before I found my Prince (he found me, actually!) but it was worth it. I love you, MSW.

In the beginning, it’s like:

love fearlessly

However, sometimes we “make a mistake,” or the dreaded “It’s-not-you-it’s-me” moment arrives and then this happens:

lovers to nothing

However, if stars align (as mine have), you find your true love – “The One” – and life is more like this:

define loveI wish each of you reading this the good fortune I have found…

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Monday Memes 24

I apologize for my absence lately from the “blogosphere.” Life just gets in the way of letting me do what I want sometimes (a LOT of times, actually!)

Here is a great meme I came across recently; it is sort of a brief “Life Manifesto:”

take chances

I have done many (all?) of these things and, I have to say (in a non-gloating way), I think I have had/still live a pretty great life. Read thru the list – where can YOU put a check mark?

08-08-08 (Happy Anniversary)

Tonight is the eve of my sixth anniversary with my beloved Martin. It is also the eve of our one year wedding anniversary (yup, we are two of “those” – gay men who are legally married). We also celebrated five years of being “registered domestic partners” in early May of this year – he’s “got me” every way possible…

hearts

It is a significant day for us – my Sweetie loves ANY reason to celebrate (and I do, too!) but our anniversary is special. It is significant that we are in a committed relationship bound not only by our love and commitment to one another, but also by law. I never thought that, in my lifetime, I would be legally married to the man of my dreams. I was wrong…

We will probably observe the day quietly, just the two of us, having a simple dinner out and/or maybe a movie in… See, there is no one on earth I’d rather be with than Martin – and I like to think he feels the same way about me.

I have to admit, I definitely imagined my life being a little bit different at my age than it actually is but the ONE thing I got right was marrying Martin.

Martin is the joy of my life, and I thank The Universe every day for him. Happy Anniversary, my Angel. Lots of love to you…

Monday Memes 7

Today’s collection of memes is about challenges and obstacles, how we can meet them head on and move beyond them. I found all three of these messages and images very inspiring; I hope you do, too. Enjoy!

never be defeated

I like the “chin-up, things-are-gonna’-get-better” spirit of the meme above. It encourages us to push through setbacks and always keep moving forward. The meme below has a similar message…

making mistakes

I think it is always important to remind ourselves that we are imperfect beings, (hopefully) constantly working to improve ourselves and others. There is no failure in failing – true failure lies in not even trying. Finally, this last meme really speaks to me on a personal level…

love (1)This final image goes out to all my binational, same-sex couple friends, many who endured months and years of trials before finally being able to be together – and for the many still apart. Always remember the journey is worth the effort… Happy Monday, Everyone!

Close Your Eyes…

Today was my first real day off after a V-E-R-Y long and busy week last week, and I anticipate having a similar week this week again (it’s all good though!) To be honest, I was also off yesterday but my beloved and I did a whole round of errands – grocery shopping and the like – so we could have today completely free to spend all day together at the beach…

Guess what? It was gloomy and rainy all day today. Bullocks!

Anyway, as our alternative plan, we saw a matinee movie (“The Conjuring” – FANTASTIC!), stopped at our favorite European market to pick up some delicious Polish mayonnaise (there is NOTHING like it) and did a bit of off-price shopping. We had a very full, very fun day together, doing nothing spectacular but having a great time anyway; I guess that’s what it feels like when you have finally found “The One.”

So, after parking the car in the garage, I closed my eyes for a minute before heading upstairs, just to catch up and relish/remember the day before going on up to our apartment. As I closed my eyes, I remembered this little quote:

Kiss Laugh and LoveIt made me smile to realize that there I was, sitting in our parking garage with my eyes closed, smiling. I have always loved the quote above and I am happy to share it with you all today.

I love my partner very much. We had an awesome day today together; I hope your day was awesome, too. And the next time you close your eyes, I hope it is for one of the reasons listed above…

Letting Go…

Close friends know that I have been in therapy for years. YEARS. I’ve never really been ashamed about it; in fact, in an odd way, I feel kinda’ proud that I have spent the better part of a decade and a half confronting my “demons,” some of them given to me by others and some of them created on my own. Most of my demons have been banished now – I like to think I am a pretty dang good person, pretty whole. Sometimes, though, it is easy to fall back into old ways of thinking and/or old patterns of behavior, which is why I am writing this post…

For more than a week, I have been personally fermenting and fretting over some recent political actions in DC. I have walked around with a level of rage inside, mixed with feelings of disappointment, anger, betrayal (a LOT of betrayal) and hopelessness. It is NOT a place I like to be. Which brings me back to one of my therapy experiences…

Some time back in my journey, I had feelings I just could not “let go” of no matter how hard I tried. My awesome therapist asked me to “name them” and then asked if I would be willing to try a new way to get rid of them. She suggested I get a helium balloon for each negative memory, person or emotion I could not seem to shake. I was to transfer all that negative emotional energy into each one of those balloons, pick a calm, peaceful spot that I could revisit when necessary and then, with purpose, joy, a deep breath and conviction, let the balloons go…

Balloon release

I was lucky enough to have my beloved M with me and, as he held my hand and I squeezed his, we watched those balloons float away for as long as we could see them. It was such a release for me; I remember silently crying, tears streaming down my cheeks as all that darkness left me. I was so happy.

I feel I might need to take a swing by that place again very soon. (It is a very old, beautiful park not too far from where we live). The “ugly” I released that day has not come back – instead, in its place, I feel a sense of sadness and “doom and gloom” creeping in after last week’s events. I want to send those feelings away ASAP, too…

I won’t need the balloons this time – I think I have honed my focus and technique enough that I do not need the “props.” What I do need is that serene, green space and a few moments to reconnect with the all the good in The Universe and send away some of the bad.

I’m not sure where all my “balloons” are winding up, but I’d definitely like to thank that place for taking them off my hands. I hope you have room for a few more…

The best love advice ever ~

So today is Valentine’s Day, the day we are supposed to honor, acknowledge and appreciate the loved one in our life, if we are lucky enough to have a loved one.

I am lucky…

I am blessed with the most amazing partner, a guy that loves and supports me unconditionally, a man that holds my hand when necessary but also kicks me in the butt when I need it. I know in my heart that he is “The One” and I am thankful EVERY DAY that he is in my life.

Before my sweetie came into my life, I had suffered a few less-than-ideal relationships and read a TON of relationship self-help books, to “fix” what was wrong with me.  And while many of those books were helpful, my two FAVORITE bits of relationship advice come from probably two of the most unlikely sources ever – Dr. Seuss and A. A. Milne, the authors of some of the most popular and beloved children’s books ever written.

Theodor Geisel (Dr. Seuss’ real name) offered up this advice as the litmus test for true, genuine love:

Dr. Suess

I think it is especially poignant that so many other authors always write about “dreaming of love” and here Dr. Seuss declares that the reality of true love is even better than dreaming.  I feel this way about my life, especially now that my Sweetie is in it…  If you are with someone but are still dreaming about that “perfect” relationship, you are with the wrong person.

The other sentiment that I really, really love comes from one of MY favorite characters ever, Winnie-the-Pooh.  A.A. Milne created an amazing cast of characters but none more enchanting than Winnie-the-Pooh.  I have always kinda’ identified with Pooh and his well-intentioned but often misguided efforts at/in life.

Plus, Pooh has that “thing” honey – with me, it’s chocolate…

The thing I love MOST about Pooh is his relationship with Piglet.  It is love, pure and genuine, not clouded by judgment or issues or anything else.  Piglet loves Pooh unconditionally, and Pooh loves Piglet the same.  Piglet often rescues Pooh, just like my Sweetie often rescues me.  And – no matter what mess Pooh gets into – Piglet is always there to pick him up, support him and still love him no matter what.  This, too, is MY Sweetie…  So, I know you will understand why I love this Winnie the Pooh moment:

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I cannot imagine one day of my life without my beloved Martin in it.  He is the finest person I have ever known and he honestly makes ME a better person. Thank you for being, Sweetie.  And thank you for being with me…

I hope everyone can be as lucky as I have been.  I hope each of you finds the Pooh to your Piglet.  Happy Valentine’s Day!